EP 33: Enneagram Basics

Growth & Grace Podcast Episode #33

  • EP 33: Enneagram Basics

    • What is the Enneagram?

      • It is an ancient personality tool, that has 9 personality types. And it can be a wonderful tool for self discovery. It dates back as far as the 4th century and people have used it for 100s of years, I would say in the last 100 years or so, there has been more research and things written, but in the last few years it seems like it has EXPLODED.

      • Your enneagram type is determined by your motives NOT by your actions.

        • Which is why there is not a 100% accurate 'test' like other personality tools.

        • Tests looks at behaviors and not motivations, only you can know your motivations.

        • If you want to take an online test, then use that as a starting place. Take your highest numbers and then start to read up on the different types.

        • I'm going to describe some basics of each type later, but I really encourage you to do your research. The enneagram institute is a good place to start, and the book the road back to you!

      • Your enneagram type can't change

      • If you are having trouble figuring out your number, think about how you were in your early 20s when reading about the types.

      • Each enneagram type goes to one number in stress and one number in wholeness. Which is why tests aren't always accurate, but that can also show up different ways. There is a while diagram, and I'll post it in the FB group so that you can see what it looks like if you have never seen it before.

      • What's the deal with wings?

        • There are a lot of talk about wings. A wing means that you may heavily lean to one of the enneagram types on either side of you. Your wing can only be located on either side of your number. Your wing can't just be any number. It is not your top two highest numbers.

      • There are not 'better' types. They are all equal. And quite frank, the world needs all the people.

      • There are different levels of health, obviously.

        • When you do your research, not everything in the description of your basic type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly among the healthy, average, and unhealthy traits that make up your personality type.

      Type One, the reformer is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.

      • Fear - Of being corrupt/evil, defective

      • Desire - To be good, to have integrity, to be balanced

        • May be overly critical and judgmental

        • Really hard on themselves

        • Details are super important to them.

        • If they say they are going to do it, then they will do it!

        • A lot of self discipline

        • They like routine.

        • Worry a lot

      Type Two, the helper is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.

      • Fear - Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved

      • Desire - To feel loved

        • Want to be acknowledged and appreciated

        • More comfortable giving than receiving

        • Really focused on relationships, and makes decisions based on relationships.

        • Really good listeners

        • Naturally take care of others

        • Don't know how to articulate what they need

        • Lots of people ask for help

      Type Three, the achiever is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.

      • Fear - Of being worthless

      • Desire - To feel valuable and worthwhile

        • Important to come across a winner

        • Competitive

        • A leader

        • A multi-tasker

        • Always working

        • Loves setting and obtaining measurable goals

        • Doesn't always talk about personal life

        • Charismatic

      Type Four, the individualist is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.

      • Fear - That they have no identity or personal significance

      • Desire - To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity)

        • Likes to feel unique

        • Spends a lot of time trying to explain self

        • Really comfortable with sad things, stories, song, movies, situations

        • Feels like something is missing

        • Intense feelings, lots of feelings

        • Often feels misunderstood

        • A lot of times an artist or highly creative

      TypeFive, the investigator is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.

      • Fear - Being useless, helpless, or incapable

      • Desire - To be capable and competent

        • Can be sarcastic and cynical

        • Needs time alone

        • Often an observer rather than participant

        • Like to learn

        • Relationships take a lot of energy

        • Sometimes feels awkward around other people

        • A good listener

      TypeSix, the loyalist is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.

      • Fear - Of being without support and guidance

      • Desire - To have security and support

        • These are our worst case scenario people

        • Often don’t trust authority

        • Can sometimes be anxious

        • Generally not comfortable with extremes

        • Acts quickly in a crisis

        • Slow to start

        • Likes to have things in order

      TypeSeven, the enthusiast is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.

      • Fear - Of being deprived and in pain

      • Desire - To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled

        • Always up for an adventure

        • Optimist to a fault

        • FOMO

        • Doesn't like routines

        • Endings are hard

        • Runs from pain a difficult conversations and situations

        • Lots of idea, a visionary, sometimes hard to finish things

      Type Eightthe challenger is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.

      • Fear - Of being harmed or controlled by others

      • Desire - To protect themselves (to be in control of their own life and destiny)

        • Blunt and aggressive

        • Does things right, and not 1/2 way

        • JUSTICE is worth fighing for

        • Easy for these people to say no

        • Doesn't shy away from confrontation

        • Get straight to the point

        • Usually more sensitive than they let on

        • Really protective of people they love

      Type Nine, the peacemaker is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.

      • Fear - Of loss and separation

      • Desire - To have inner stability "peace of mind"

        • Will do almost anything to avoid conflict

        • Tends to procrastinate

        • Chooses the path of least resistance

        • Can get lost in doing trivial things while other things get put off

        • Likes being outside

        • Goes a long with what others want to do

        • Very agreeable

      • Enneagram has been an amazing tool to help me in my own journey of self-awareness. It has helped me be a better leader, and helped me navigate relationships better. So if you are looking for a starting place to learn more about yourself, then I highly recommend this tool!

      • SO many resources out there. On how numbers interact with each other, sticking points in number pairs. It can really be a transformational tool…but that is all it is. The enneagram is not the end all-be all. And I know it is all the buzz right now, and I personally love it. But it is for your own self-discovery and not a weapon to use against people.

      • Enneagram Etiquette

        • You should never try to type someone else