Growth & Grace Podcast Episode #6
Affirmations: The What, Why & How
What is an affirmation?
In the most simple definition, an affirmation is anything that we repeat to ourselves. And whether you realize it or not, you already have affirmations. Now what those affirmations are and if they are positive, I’m not sure.
Humans have between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute per person, one article I read said that we have nearly 70,000 thought per day. HOLY MOLY! That’s a lot of thoughts.
So there are two parts of the mind
Conscious - The conscious mind is the part of your mind that is responsible for logic and reasoning. It is the part of your mind that is clearly aware of why things happen. 1+1= 2
Subconscious - The subconscious mind is overruling all consciously made decisions. It is filtering out what part of the world you see. That is why Dr Phil always says that perception is reality. That’s why two people at the same time at the same place can have entirely different experiences because of what your subconscious mind is saying.
Affirmations are trying to change that subconscious mind.
If you believe, that all men are egoistic and there is no such thing as a happy relationship, your subconscious mind only lets you experience all the things to prove that that is true. It’s not magically generating things and circumstances. It is just selectively deciding what information it’s filtering out, usually based on things we’ve decided to be true. Whether because someone told us or we experienced it ourselves.
But we all know that just because we believe something to be true doesn’t make it so. We grow and change and adapt. When I was a kid I thought adults were boring, now I’m nearly 31 I know that can’t possibly be true!
The good thing is, your subconscious mind believes everything that you will tell it. That means you can change its program and make it believe the outcome you actually want.
Okay pause, maybe you’re not actually bought in. I get it. It sounds little woowoo, and like there’s no way if I start telling myself I’ll be a millionaire that it’ll actually come true. This is not magic. It’s psychology. It’s all about beliefs. Beliefs influence your actions which influence your outcomes.
Let me give you an example: You need a job, and you’re looking through the classified or scrolling through indeed and you see a job that you would LOVE to do! Like sets your soul on fire, but you’ve never done that kind of job before. So you don’t apply. And because you don’t apply, you obviously don’t get the job. Do you see how the belief that you weren’t good enough or qualified or were afraid kept you from getting the job you would LOVE?!
Our thoughts impact our outcome. Change your thoughts, change the outcome.
Why Do affirmations?
Because they literally change your life.
They motivate you to do things you wouldn’t normally do. They push you past your fears and and comfort zone to a place of productivity and confidence.
They keep the mind focused on the goal. If you are intentional about your affirmation, then your beliefs start to influence actions which influence the outcomes.
Over all, positive statements make you feel optimistic, energetic and active, and therefore, put you in a better position to transform your inner and external worlds.
It’s really THAT powerful!
But knowing what an affirmation is and how powerful it can be does nothing, if you don’t know how to figure out what affirmation you should use.
How?! (The big question!)
For affirmations to work, they need to trigger the right emotions in you.
Two of the most powerful words in the English Language are, can you guess? I am. I am, because whatever comes after those two words we manifest. Those things become who we are, how we think, how we treat others and ourselves.
So affirmations should start with “I am….”
How do you come up with the best affirmation for this season of your life? Well, you just need to ask the right questions.
What qualities do you admire in someone else?
If you just got promoted at your new job, for example, and you’re gaining some responsibilities or are trying to lead a team in a new project? What are the qualities you like to see in a leader?
Pick one of those qualities you would like to see in yourself, and put ‘I am’ in front of it. I am a visionary.
Another question you could ask: What are you struggling with the most right now?
What are you self Limiting beliefs? What are the things you tell yourself that are negative? It’s not fun to think about them, but sometimes that is a good way to come up with the perfect affirmation for you. Reverse it and start manifesting something else in your life.
I am worthy.
I am enough.
I am worthy of success.
I am brave.
I am strong.
I have everything I need.
These are are just a few examples:
I have a write your own affirmation worksheet up on my website at www.amberleagray.com I encourage you to go and pick it up, work through it, and then let me know what you come up with!
They can change with the season of your life or situations you are in. As we grow and change and become more self aware, our affirmations might shift, and that is okay!
Once you have your affirmation figured out, write it down everywhere. Make it a screensaver on your phone. Record it as a voice memo and listen to it every morning. Journal about it daily. Do whatever you have to do to keep it at the front of your mind. If you’re not consistent, then it won’t work.
I am so excited to see how you guys like this episode and what you affirmations you come up with. Thanks again for hanging out with me!